At Jamieson & Yannucci Funeral Home, we encourage families to consider allowing the life of an individual to shine over the natural somberness of their death. To honor one's life is to let their characteristics define them, not our lingering thoughts of their final days. Our mission is to assist you in acknowledging the death of one who is loved and celebrate their life.
There is no single proper funeral service. It is a time for human sharing in its deepest sense. You and the ones you love are at the very center of the process, and the choices you make will determine its significance for you. As you participate in the planning of the funeral service, you help create a meaningful experience for everyone.
In these times of demonstrated social creativity, individuals are showing deep interest in making an exit statement at the time of their deaths.
It is the goal of Jamieson & Yannucci Funeral Home to help people complete the relationship with the one who has died, and to provide a climate that encourages each person to give and receive emotional support. During the funeral service, family and friends have the opportunity to relate to each other at the deepest levels and find mutual strength.
"All I want is to make it simple and easy for the kids" is a statement often made by those planning end of life tributes. Keep in perspective, that while any service will be an honor to your life, the personal elements of the funeral are for the living! A misconception is that a simple "no fuss over me" approach insulates our family from the discomfort of a loss. This is not true…there is no short cut through this adjustment period! In spite of our modesty, members of your family and your friends will grieve and begin to adjust to life without you no matter how your try to protect them. What seems tidy and neat on paper might not be the help your children and grandchildren need at that somber time of their lives. Put all lighthearted kidding aside, have a heart to heart conversation with your family and clergy before predetermining how those you love should honor you. As an illustration, let's think about the time, for one reason or another, we may choose to buy, on the spur of the moment, a pair of shoes for ourselves that don’t exactly fit, but we wear them anyway with a measure of discomfort. However, we would never consider giving our children or grandchildren a pair that don’t fit them. Make sure the funeral service you choose fits the needs of family members so they don’t walk forward in life with the memory of your arrangements that just didn’t fit well.
No visitation for me…I don’t want people looking at me! While most of us tend not to be “showy”, few of us realize the implications to our families of such a statement. Know that the emphasis of the old “visitation” we grew up with was different than the “gathering” of family and friends today. An increasing trend is to acknowledge the death, and then let the years of life overshadow those difficult final days or months. Now the focus is on the unique characteristics of the person remembered as their life is celebrated as a gift rather than a life taken away. Do you really mean to intentionally prevent your family from this? The therapeutic long term benefits of your family being able to say goodbye has been well documented. Additionally, as a society that honors symbolism, the improved pleasant appearance, rather than perhaps what was remembered in a hospital or nursing home, is a great relief to family members. Only the special people in your life, not the general public, will make the time for your “visitation”. Realize any final plans will be for the sake of the living not the deceased. Visitations or gatherings exist because people care and they have a deep sincere need to support their friends at a difficult time. Not much different than other very difficult times we all experience during our lives. Suffice to say that your family will always have visitation! It can be planned for at the funeral home when all the family is gathered in a supportive setting, or it will be during the following weeks and months when family members are at the grocery store, athletic events, church, and social events. The friends need to express their concern and the family benefits from that. This will happen in a comfortable setting or with many awkward moments in public.